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Heaven Holds a Place

by Twitchy on July 8, 2014

Sometimes oldest friends are the best. The ones who knew us before we became who we are now. There at the best and worst of times, the thick and thin. The dear ones we pick up with again like no time has passed at all, thumbing our noses at the truth.

There’s that laugh, that familiar cheeky expression, that reliably bent sense of humour. We are girls again. So deeply comforting it is that some things never change. Beyond treasure is to still have them and the all-too-rare times spent catching up face to face.

It was in amongst this joy of catching up, dinner and drinks, banter and laughter, my precious friend let me know: her mother was really not well. That was one month ago.

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Hard to talk about and hard to find words…everyone manages in their own way. For the family at least, there was a little time to adjust, accept. They were all able to gather.

On Thursday I drove out of town for the intimate farewell. With little else I could do, I was pleased my quietly independent friend would have me.

“Forgive me if I get lost, won’t you? Either way, coming to hug you. I’ve never done this before xxx”

“That makes two of us.”

“Oh Babe xxx”

Twenty minutes before I arrived at the house, the local radio station played a classic Simon and Garfunkel tune. Only that day, it carried an immense significance: it sang of heaven, and blessed her by her very name. I’d no one to turn to, to witness that star-crossed moment. But it was a gift that made her husband and children smile to hear of it, when I was able to convey my heartfelt wishes.

At the house I saw no tears, but laughter. Stories, photos, cake, humour and love. And at the end, a grateful look in familiar eyes that were thanks in themselves.

{ 23 comments… read them below or add one }

Emily August 11, 2014 at 9:00 pm

What a beautiful post. x

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Bron @ Preschool Mummy July 9, 2014 at 9:05 pm

How lovely to find comfort in the company of a dear, old friend. Old friends are such gems, treasures, and sometimes you only see them shine when you’re feeling buried yourself. x

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Lara @ This Charming Mum July 9, 2014 at 6:05 am

That’s really beautiful. There’s nothing that really takes the pain away at these times, but knowing that good friends are supporting you through the daze is precious.

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Twitchy July 10, 2014 at 2:16 pm

Thank you Lara, I hope if she comes here she can also take comfort from the words of those who’ve kindly taken time to comment x

Emma Fahy Davis July 8, 2014 at 11:14 pm

True friends are a rarity and a blessing xx

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Twitchy July 10, 2014 at 2:17 pm

Yes they are, Emma. A truth never to be taken for granted.

Vicki @ Knocked Up and Abroad July 8, 2014 at 9:59 pm

Sorry for the loss. Heartache is bearable with true friends and hugs x

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Amy @ Three Little Honeys July 8, 2014 at 8:46 pm

Sorry to hear of your friends loss. True friends are important to have around especially in difficult times xx

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Tegan July 8, 2014 at 8:40 pm

Friends are worth their weight in gold. I’m sorry to hear of your friends loss.

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Renee Wilson July 8, 2014 at 8:11 pm

So sorry for your friend’s loss. There is something special about lifelong friends who have been there from the beginning. It is lovely you were able to be there to help her through this tough time.

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Mark July 8, 2014 at 7:44 pm

Sometimes just being is enough … that’s what friends do. Sending you positive and comforting thoughts through the airwaves to you and your friend.

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Twitchy July 10, 2014 at 2:17 pm

Thank you Mark.

Carla @My Yellow Heart July 8, 2014 at 3:22 pm

how sad. I love how songs often choose the right moment to play themselves xx

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Bec @ The Plumbette July 8, 2014 at 3:17 pm

Despite the sadness of the situation, it was lovely to read that you could be there for your friend. Comfort can come from the simplest of places too.

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EssentiallyJess July 8, 2014 at 3:03 pm

Sorry for your friend. Not a moment any of us looks forward to. So glad you could be there, and share that perfect song for her. xx

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SarahD @SnippetsandSpirits July 8, 2014 at 2:18 pm

Nothing like the familiarity and comfort of an old friend. When no words are needed.

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Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me July 8, 2014 at 1:34 pm

So sad. Nice to know you have each other when life throws a curve ball. Sometimes a hug and being there is enough x

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Jodi Gibson July 8, 2014 at 9:46 am

Old friends are the best

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Aroha @ Colours of Sunset July 8, 2014 at 8:24 am

It is so great to have friends like that. Friends who are there for you when you need them most. My BFF was there for me when dad passed. There doesn’t need to be words, just hugs, and presence. It helps. So much. Beautiful xox

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Josefa @always Josefa July 8, 2014 at 7:14 am

What a precious moment to share. Sometimes in our hardest of times,in our most difficult of times,all we want is to have someone there. To not feel alone. To have someone reach out and give us a hug, with no words attached. Just beautiful of you to do this xx

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Twitchy July 10, 2014 at 2:20 pm

In times like these it’s the only way I can show my care. As they say, it speaks louder than all the words.

Lydia C. Lee July 8, 2014 at 7:01 am

This is so lovely. I’m glad you were there for your friend. Nothing makes it easier, but it’s nice to have those that love you around…

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Twitchy July 10, 2014 at 2:18 pm

Thank you for saying, Lydia.

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